I have been a divorce lawyer for over 30 years. That is a long time and so have many clients that I have had the pleasure and privilege of working with. With this in mind, I have compiled a list of some positive habits that can be developed during a divorce.
Habits To Develop If You Get A Divorce
1. Participate in positive self-talk
I find that when a lot of people come to my office to get a divorce, they are judging themselves.
Sometimes they judge themselves to be too expensive, don’t work enough, or fail to develop their children’s careers. Do not do that. Focus on the positives, telling yourself the things that will help you move forward in your life, and don’t punish yourself for how past mistakes feel or might feel.
2. Be proactive, not reactive
Another positive habit is to think about what you really want in your life and how you can achieve it, rather than constantly focusing on the circumstances, the divorce yourself, your future ex-spouse, or even what’s going on in your life to respond world.
Constantly negative thinking is an absolutely guaranteed way to feel crappy all the time. Never let anyone or anything determine how you feel and how you are.
3. Look for solutions
Instead of focusing on the problem, look for ways to get through this difficult period. I don’t want to go too fast. You don’t want to overlook the details, but make sure you focus on finding a solution. Think about what the future will be like and what your life will be like after the divorce.
Take that away
Divorce is never easy. It can lead you through emotional turmoil that can make you feel defeated and lost. This is why it is so important to develop healthy habits that will aid you in the healing process as you start your new life after divorce. Remember to focus on the present and on things that you can change. Trust the process and work diligently to be nice to yourself during this difficult time.
Think positive thoughts and don’t let the bad days get you down. Talk to people who support and love you and remove all negative thoughts and people from your life. Over time, you will begin to notice drastic changes in your life that will help you heal.
You will get through this.
Click here for a list of other positive habits you can develop in divorce.