Nobody ever said that you need a man in your life to be happy. Sure, camaraderie is important, but it’s more important to have a good relationship with yourself first, especially after a bad breakup or divorce.
Instead of complaining about what you’ve lost or caught up in the commercial hype of Valentine’s Day, do something new this year such as: B. learn to love yourself more.
Here are 8 practical ways you can learn to be alone on Valentine’s Day.
1. Keep an eye out for social media:
Do yourself a favor and stay away from social media. Hear this, no one is going to post anything bad about their Valentine’s Day so resist the urge to get sucked into the hype. It won’t serve you to see how the other half lives.
2. Include where you are:
Stop comparing your life to others. Let go of the judgments, mock yourself and wishing you were elsewhere in your life. Nobody went your way and neither did you. Honor yourself by respecting where you are. Sure, it might not be where you want to be, but I assure you it’s the perfect place for now.
3. Write yourself a card:
There is no better way to improve your self-esteem than telling yourself that you are loved. Write a card to your future self about where you would like to be in a year. Add some things that you admire most in yourself, too. Sign it off with love, put the card away and read it in a year.
4. Update your experience:
The grass isn’t always greener. Regardless of why you were alone on Valentine’s Day, don’t assume that others are much happier than you because they have someone in their life. Too many people are afraid of leaving what they have because they fear the unknown. Face the unknown with courage and strength every day. Choose to focus on how empowered you are to make your own decisions in life. Realize the freedom you have in making this choice. Be open to life as it unfolds in new ways. Embrace new experiences. Realize that this is only a moment in time. Take the opportunity to build resilience and independence. Take the time to heal from the past and access the stillness that you might otherwise avoid.
5. Reward yourself:
Just because you are alone that day doesn’t mean you can’t do anything nice for yourself. You know what you like. You know what you need, so permission to do it. A little forbearance didn’t hurt anyone. Let go of the guilt and give yourself something back. Here are some ideas: take a nice bath, cook or order a nice meal, get a massage, walk along the beach, light a scented candle, lay down on the couch and do nothing. Take a trip to the hairdressers.
6. Bring in reinforcement:
Get on your forefoot and schedule a nice meeting with your sisterhood. That way, when you’re feeling a little melancholy, you’ll have a positive, familiar group of people around you.
7. A gift of compassion:
When you feel bad, shift your focus by saving a thought for others who are hurt too. You may want to reach out to one of these people and give them a gift of your compassion. Whether it’s a phone call or a conversation, just listening to someone can be enough to make them feel loved, considered, and cared for. Not to mention the reward that is included in it for you.
8. The non-negotiable:
Take this opportunity to decide what to expect from love next time. Learn from the past and feel comfortable being a little more selective with the next person who cares about you. Be clear about the things you don’t want to compromise on and the things you want to overlook when the right things are in place.
You are responsible for your wellbeing. So do whatever shakes your world this Valentine’s Day.