You Don’t Get a Do-Over in Divorce

You don’t get a divorce

This could be the biggest reality check in a divorce …

You don’t get a “do-over”.

Hopefully, when you come to terms with this thought, it will help you realize the importance of making the best, most informed decisions you can possibly make right now.

How many times in life have you craved a makeover? We don’t get a lot of takeovers in life, do we? This is why it is so important that you not look back at your divorce wishing you had done something else.

I hear from so many people who wish they did something differently. Sure, you can always spend thousands of dollars to go to court if you decide you don’t like the agreement, but that’s it – you will be spending thousands of dollars. Now is the time to make sure that you are really in the best place that you can possibly be so as not to make this big mistake.

And here it is …

React emotionally

This is one of the BIGGEST MISTAKES that can be made in the divorce process. I know to myself I was completely overwhelmed and emotionally drained from this divorce process!

I didn’t know what I was doing and I felt like I was going through this in a fog – I just wasn’t myself. I was so worried about the future that I couldn’t take small steps every day to make sure that I was on the right track with what I was in control of.

This leads to a state of high arousal on the right side of the brain that controls the “fight, flight, or freeze” response. You’ve all heard about it because it’s the basic, instinctive part of the brain that protects us from impending danger.

But sometimes the danger is the fear we feel about our situation, and it really isn’t an imminent danger – it’s just in our thoughts. When we live in this state of constant arousal, it is almost impossible to use the left side of the brain, which is our reasoning / decision making as part of the brain. We are dealing with the negative emotions associated with it – anger, fear, confusion, and pain.

We simply react to the events and stimuli without being able to be in the moment and process what is really important at the moment. And we get angry, scared, confused, and overwhelmed. But how about if you could get help with the emotional part that is paralyzing you right now? Imagine being able to see the options you could have, the options you never thought of!

How would you feel if you knew you were finally in control of it instead of just watching your life fall apart before your eyes? Well you can, and more importantly, you deserve that peace of mind.

Try it out today!

Take small steps each day – just one act that will make you feel in control of your divorce process – possibly make a to-do list, and tick a small box each day. This brings you back to the left side of the brain where you can start thinking reasonably and clearly.

Remember, you are not getting a “do-over” so let’s think and not react emotionally. If you would like further guidance and assistance on this, call Smarter Divorce Solutions today and arrange your free initial consultation with us today!

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