Going through a divorce is usually a big life change. It’s also a time to think about who you are, who you want to be, and what your next chapter will look like. You can even start a journey where you can find your own identity without being tied to anyone else. One of the best ways to do this is to find support and connect with your community.
While the support of your friends and family is often necessary, you also need to take the time to find your own way. What better way to build a stronger support system and do something to give back to others by becoming a presence and a voice in your neighborhood?
By connecting within your community, you can make new friends (especially if you are both parents) and find like-minded people. You will enjoy that too health benefits of giving back – including lesser burdens.
So what can you do to connect with your community after the divorce?
How to Connect with Your Community After a Divorce
1. Join like-minded groups
It can be difficult to motivate yourself after a divorce. Life is different, there is no denying it. One way to “force” yourself to go outside is to join groups that you are interested in. It’s a fantastic way to connect with others as well make new friends.
Think about the things that interest you and use them as a stepping stone to the types of groups you want to join. It could include things like:
- An exercise / yoga class
- A book club
- A support group for parents, divorced people
- An art class
The possibilities are endless. So don’t be afraid to branch out and explore your interests while meeting new friends and neighbors.
2. Get involved in your child’s school
Remember, your divorce will affect your children too. You can both be comfortable with spending more time together, and you can play an active role in their “life away from home” by participating in their school activities.
Consider joining the PTA or other volunteer groups to help with decision making. If you have the necessary skills, you can also become a trainer or assistant trainer for one of your child’s teams.
You can go a step further if you want to be more committed to your child’s school while making a career change. Consider going back to school to become a teacher’s assistant or teacher.
3. Join the homeowners association
Most communities have some form of homeowners association or an equivalent. Engaging with your local HOA can help you develop a closer relationship with your neighbors. It can also put you at the center of community issues where you can help solve problems and make the area a better place for everyone. There are enough of Ways to get involvedincluding:
- Participation in community events
- Regular participation in HOA meetings
- voluntary work
- Joining committees
- Become a board member
When you join the HOA, you become connected to your community and you can learn things about your neighborhood that you would never have otherwise. If you are interested in connecting with others and making a difference at the same time, this is a wonderful opportunity.
Searching through your belongings after a divorce can be difficult, but it’s the perfect time to “clean up” things you don’t want or need. Your home environment should be a place where you feel comfortable, safe and relaxed. If there are still items from your marriage that are triggering bad memories or preventing you from moving on, mental health issues like depression can be addressed.
Fortunately, donating a few things is not only a great way to make a difference in your community but also to give back to your community. Donate clothing to thrift stores, linens to your local homeless shelter, and books to your local library. This opens the door to the places in your community where you can connect with others. You may even find more ways to give back by speaking with people in these company or organization locations.
5. Visit the church
After a divorce, you may feel lost or “empty”. For some people, clarity is found through spirituality. Visiting a parish church is not only a great way to meet others and feel supported, but you can also get a lot more out of it than you planned!
Most parts of the city have churches or places of worship with different denominations. Don’t be afraid to hop around a bit until you find one that feels right.
If you are already attending a church, why not join more? Join small groups, volunteer for different services or events, and connect with other members. Most churches are active in their parishes in different ways. So as you get more involved with yours, you’ll feel more connected – in more ways than one!
There are so many additional things you can do to connect with your community after a divorce. The most important thing is to take that leap and do it! The next chapter now officially begins and you are responsible for how it is written.