To honor our team of notable writers and thousands of loyal readers, DivorceMagazine has compiled a list of our top 10 posts of 2020. This year has had its ups and downs. People divorcing in 2020 – in the midst of a global pandemic – faced unique and unprecedented challenges never before seen in divorce.
From tips on how to tell the kids about a divorce, to signs that you are married to a narcissist, to what actions to take if your spouse leaves you, these posts offer insights on a variety of topics that occur before, during and after divorce. We hope these posts can help you teach some things and provide some insight into the divorce process as we enter the new year.
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DivorceMags Top 10 Blog Posts of 2020
10. I want my family to cut ties with my ex. Am i being unreasonable
I was married for 13 years before I finally cut ties with my ex and we divorced. My ex-husband and I are great to be parents. We’re not friends, but we can get along enough to try to do what is best for our five children. I have full custody and he has a visitor. We both attend school conferences and events and make “big decisions” together about the children.
When I got divorced, I was willing to give up many things. I knew I was going to have financial problems and was ready to give up my cell phone, cable TV, eat out, and even give up the possibility of moving to a smaller house or apartment. I wasn’t ready to give up my family and that really surprised me.
Read the full article here. You can find more resources on dealing with an ex here.
9. The 7 Levels of Emotional Affairs – And How To Save Your Marriage
“An emotional matter is an emotional connection between two people who agree to keep their relationship a secret because one or both of them are in a committed relationship or marriage with another person. Most emotional affairs are not physically sexual but rather emotionally provocative and intimate, which makes it more difficult for couples to overcome and forgive.
“The rate of divorce due to emotional affairs is significant and growing – in part because of the accessibility, which includes advances in wireless technology and the popularity of social networking sites designed to facilitate connections between people.”
Read the full article here. More resources on infidelity and affairs can be found here.
8. 16 signs you are married to a narcissist
“As a psychologist and marriage and family therapist, I have worked with many diagnosed and undiagnosed people who have significant narcissistic traits. Narcissism falls under the personality disorder category. The clinical name for people with pronounced symptoms of grandiosity is Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Personality disorders are conditions in which people have traits that cause them to feel and act socially distressing, which limit their ability to function in relationships and other areas of their life. Finding out whether or not you are married to a narcissist can help you see what you may or may not need from your partner.
People with NPD can present themselves as arrogant, conceited, self-reliant, grandiose, boastful, etc. People with narcissistic traits enjoy and enjoy being the center of attention, frequently dominating conversations, or directing conversations back to the issues that are being “perceived”. more important “for the narcissist. Narcissists thrive in environments and relationships that appear to be primarily focused on them and only serve their needs and interests. “
read this full article here. For more resources on relationships with narcissists, see Click here.
7. What to do if your spouse refuses to sign divorce papers
“Divorce is never an easy process. However, it can go relatively smoothly as long as your spouse cooperates.
If you and your spouse can agree on the divorce and quickly come to an agreement on the various topics such as division of property, spousal support and custody, you may be able to get a divorce as easily as possible.
You both sign the papers, have the court finalize your agreement, and move on. But what if your spouse refuses to sign divorce papers? “
read this full article here. For more information on the divorce process, see Click here.
6. 8 things to do right away if your husband leaves you
“If you are going to get a divorce, please remember: Hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst. I wish you the best.
I check my article analysis a lot and I am overwhelmed by how many women end up here by typing, “What to do if your man leaves you?” Literally hundreds a day. You land here for the first article I wrote for DivorcedMoms about “What To Do If Your Husband Leaves You?” Have written.
I wrote that one kind of tongue on my cheek, it has some very real advice, but as I read through it now, I realize that if you find yourself in this zombie-like state right after being abandoned, you may not want to read about it Like how fun it is to have sex as a single woman or how real the divorce diet is.
They want advice, serious advice, advice to hold on to, and if you want, wear it like a Superman cloak to give you strength. You want to know that you aren’t the only one who made yourself feel this way, not the only one with so many different feelings and thoughts blasting through your brain that you are half convinced that one is shooting out of your skull and accidentally boiling someone else.”
read this full article here. For more resources on dealing with divorce, see Click here.
5. False allegations in custody cases: questions, observations and comments
“Have you ever been sexually assaulted, have you been part of a really violent household, have you been part of a substance abuse family, or have parents been jailed for a crime? If so, then you know how this affects all family members, especially the children. When you deal with a parent who has a drug or alcohol problem, a violent or criminal history, you will understand the toll the children concerned have to pay and that supervised or terminated parental leave may be required.
But what if you are involved in a divorce or custody case and suddenly find yourself on the “wrong side” of false allegations of sexual abuse, violence, substance abuse, or crime? “
read this full article hereFor more information on false allegations, click here. Click here.
4. 6 reasons why divorce is more difficult for men than women
“It is common knowledge that women tend to be more emotional than men. However, many studies have been done on who has harder divorce, and everyone has found that divorce is harder for men. In fact, a husband can have much more health and happiness to lose in divorce than his wife. Let’s look at some reasons why this might be so. “
read this full article here. For more resources on men and divorce, Click here.
3. 315 Tips on Dealing with a Toxic Ex-Spouse with Child Involvement
“I’ve written in the past about divorce being more than one aspect. First is the legal divorce where the judge ends the marriage and a document known as a divorce decree or similar paper is filed with the court that will legally end your marriage. Equally important, and paramount in some divorces, is psychological divorce. Psychological divorce is the ability of one or both spouses to move on to the next chapter in their life.
With particularly bad divorces, one or the other may be unable to move on due to anger, bitterness, and emotional or psychological problems, to name a few examples. The more toxic an ex-spouse, the more problems will arise, especially when there are underage children. “
read this full article here. For more resources on toxic ex-spouses, Click here.
2. The breaking point: Why do women initiate divorce more than men?
“In my experience as a coach for women’s advancement, I help women cope with the emotional turmoil of divorce. This would make me a pretty “divorcee”. I divorced once. When a woman comes to see me, they usually have already divorced. But sometimes I wonder if that divorce was necessary or if it was just easier?
Last week I met a woman while doing fieldwork … (OK, it was my make-up lady at Ulta). She immediately described her marital problems to me when I told her about my calling. When she told her husband she was going to get a divorce, he suddenly started doing all the things she wanted him to do. But in her words: “It was too little too late.” I then asked her a question to get her to think about it: “What would happen if instead of being late, you went all-in? One last effort, maybe, but without any conditions or expectations – just pure love for your husband and child. “There were no words… she was silent and even seemed a little annoyed. “
read this full article here. For more resources on women and divorce, Click here.
1. 5 rules for introducing a new partner to your children after divorce
“One of the most common questions divorced parents ask me is: When should I introduce my children to a new partner? My best answer is to take time out on a date after the divorce and not introduce your new love to your children if you are casually dating.
While it is normal to seek comfort, companionship, and a sexual relationship after a breakup, it is important to be slow so you can judge whether that relationship is accidental or permanent. “
read this full article here, and for more resources on child and parent problems after divorce, Click here.