Dear Annie: I have a 45 year old son who has been all my life. But he’s always been in and out of the drug scene. He has two sons of his own, neither of whom will speak to him, me, or anyone else in our family. Even though he always worked and paid his child support.
He doesn’t work and currently lives with his father and me. I’m trying to talk to him, but I can’t seem to have a conversation with him without him getting angry. Still, he doesn’t seem to be using drugs or drinking.
We really don’t know what to do at this point. We still take him to church with us when we go, but he never wants to go with us. Any suggestions for me? – Worried about my son
Better to be concerned: Decades of living with the addictive disease can skew perspective – and I’m not just referring to your son. You have lived with the disease, and it is just as important that you recover. Many resources are available, including therapy; Books like Melody Beatties “Codependent No More”; and programs like Nar-Anon (www.nar-anon.org/virtual-meetings), Al-Anon (www.al-anon.org) or LifeRing Recovery (www.lifering.org).
While it is still difficult for many of us to meet in person, Nar-Anon and LifeRing hold online meetings via video conferencing, and Al-Anon hosts online meetings as well as telephone meetings.
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