The emotional and financial effects of divorce can extend over 2, 4, 8, or more years into the future. How long your recovery will take depends on what stage of the emotional process you are at when the decision to divorce is made.
Since divorce is usually not a decision that both spouses come together to make, it makes sense that one spouse is more advanced than the other in the emotional process. You can both go through the legal divorce process at the same time, but how you feel emotionally will be different.
It only makes sense that the divorced spouse has a better chance of recovering faster, both emotionally and financially.
The Realities of Divorce for Women
Below are some common divorce statistics on women and divorce:
- Women get divorced twice as often as men
- 90 percent of divorced mothers have custody of their children (even if they weren’t given it in court)
- Sixty percent of people under poverty guidelines are divorced women and children
- Single mothers support up to four children with an average annual after-tax income of $ 12,200
- 65 percent of divorced mothers do not receive child benefit (figure based on all children who might be eligible, including unmarried parents if fathers have custody and parents without a court order); 75% receive court-ordered child support payments (and have increased since the introduction of uniform guidelines for child support payments, compulsory attachment and the suspension of license renewals)
- Women who work and place their children in childcare have a greater stigma than men in the same position. Men in the same position often attract support and compassion.
Let’s look at divorce from a woman’s point of view. She will be better emotionally because most of the time she is the one who has already distanced herself emotionally from the marriage and her husband. That means less work on the emotional front!
Divorced women, on the other hand, have most of the child-rearing responsibilities, have a greater chance of living in poverty, and only about 75% actually receive the child support their ex has to pay. In other words, no divorced mother has ever lived on child support alone.
Knowing this should motivate you to line up your financial ducks before leaving the financial stability marriage has to offer. If you are a home mom who is out of work, you and your children can no longer face financial difficulties after the divorce and be dependent on a man you no longer want when you return to work and get married With.
Emotional Realities of Divorce for Women
Although women and children are more likely to suffer financially after divorce, women will get used to being single again faster than men. That’s a good thing because; If you do not prepare yourself financially, it will take all of your emotional energy to resolve the financial problems.
What can men expect on an emotional level? They are ten times more likely to commit suicide after a divorce, and those who do are often depressed and quickly remarry to cope with the depression. In other words, men do not do as well emotionally as women when it comes to adjusting and adjusting to a divorce.
A man who is left most likely increases the stress levels of both spouses in order to reconcile the marriage. And if that doesn’t happen, they become more likely to get angry and vengeful in response to losing their marriage and time with their children.
But his emotional lot in life is made easier by the fact that he is financially better off than his ex.
My suggestion for women, while your decision to divorce will most likely depend on how you are feeling emotionally, don’t consider the financial implications of your decision. And don’t take your first steps towards divorce until you’ve got all of your financial “ducks in a row”.
There is a myth that women receive a livelihood, wealth is fairly shared, and that an ex will be held accountable if they fail to pay. Nothing is further from the truth; Once divorced, an ex-husband can have a court order for child support and child support, but will he?
These are all things women should consider when considering a divorce. According to statistics, you will do well emotionally. According to statistics, you can suffer financially. Both of these things should be seriously considered before you get divorced. You may regret it.